Overcoming Your Social Awkwardness


Many people who appear to be highly extrovert on the internet are in fact privately very shy, clumsy and anxious when it comes to real-life tête-à-têtes. The reasons for individual social insecurities range from painful childhood experiences and traumas, low sense of self-worth and feelings of inadequacy to full-scale social phobias. In case you’re struggling with your own sense of social unease on a daily basis, keep in mind that everything can change with some effort and time, and we have some tips right here that may help you overcome your social awkwardness.



Identify your soft spots: Eliminate cause of low self-esteem


Most things happen for a good reason, especially with human behavior. Nevertheless, there is a simple way for you to change your attitude and boost your self-confidence, and it doesn’t demand all that much effort. First, identify your character traits you consider a personality minus or the individual features you are not so proud of. The main sources of your social insecurities mostly lie in the way you see yourself: for example, if you think your nose is too big or too bumpy, you’ll probably try to conceal that physical imperfection or work around it when among other people.


You may try and resort to rhinoplasty as a one-stop solution, or wear outfits and jewelry that shift the attention from your face to your chest or hands. Or, if you consider yourself inferior to others due to your lower financial status or less impressive educational background, you might want to make a list of your best character traits that stand out in the crowd, and take into account the experiences that enriched your life and personality. You are not your paycheck, and you definitely are not your high school degree – you’re much more and better than a dead letter.



Get out of your comfort zone: The power of changes


If you feel intimidated or even slightly uneasy when around other people, the odds are you are more likely to withdraw from social gatherings and events at some point in your life. Of course, your life is yours alone, and it’s you who is in charge of all your choices and decisions – but still, consider what you might end up losing due to your own sense of social inadequacy. Your friends, family, acquaintances and other people who care about you will miss you very much in case you start shunning the once regular get-togethers.


Human contact is precious, and it’s a need; imagine going without food for days on end – because that’s what you will be doing by depriving yourself of human company. And besides, running away and hiding under the blanket won’t solve the main reason of your low self-esteem – pluck up your courage and make changes in your everyday life that will prove useful for your sense of self-value in the long run. Get out there and join the crowd! The world is not such an awful place once you get used to it.



Don’t give up: Practice makes perfect


When learning any craft and skill, be it social, artistic or professional, the rule of thumb is not to expect immediate impressive results and instant success. Every craft takes a while to develop, mature and grow into a second skin – the harder you practice your social skills and the more effort and time you put into overcoming your awkwardness, the better the outcome would be, and the sooner it will come. Don’t overdo it, either – try and set some sensible goals on a weekly basis and monitor your social skill progress over time. Remember: Rome was not built in a day, let alone a complex skill like human communication, interpersonal savvy and good rapport. 


We all have those obnoxious moments when we feel utterly socially awkward – it’s only normal and you shouldn’t attach way too much attention to it. Try and focus on your positives instead of the negatives; correct your slight bodily imperfections if they are the main reason of your private insecurities; don’t run away from problems – try to identify the whys and overcome them, and whatever you do, never stop trying – because success will come to those who are willing to change and grow on a daily basis. You will get where you want to be, but you need to keep going ’till you get there. 

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