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LASplash.com: Celebrity Talk Michael Jackson's Pressure of Being a Child Star - An Interview with Dr. E... By JoAnna Jane Selby
The world stopped when the news spread of Michael Jackson's death, a controversial musical legend with his closest friends as kids. This genius victimized through conditional love from his father’s drive to society’s stigma, never grew out of his childhood. Always feeling inadequate he pushed himself to the top for the false love of others. Dr. Erik Fisher or better recognized as Dr. E ... psychoanalyzed Michael's life ‘to a T’.
Dr. E ... explained Michael's life dilemma through the pressures of being a child star. As little Michael grew up as daddy’s tin soldier with love granted only after the best performances, he accustomed love with his achievement. Later in life, his pressure sprung from society as Michael Jackson became an icon. Michael Jackson's longing to be loved emotionally drove him to worldly success. He became a man of power that everyone idolized.
Once he realized power lacked true affection, he looked to children for love. The children, naive of his status, were the closest to true love for him. His entire life spent searching for love ended in disaster. Where does his truth lie? This pattern never stopped for Michael. The problem was unrecognized by him. His destructive love pattern began with his father, which was a line of generations being mistreated. The truth for many individuals lies with the ending of this pattern. Where does the truth lie for man-kind? The truth is the same for all. In everyday individuals this line never stops, just like Michael's life. Some don’t even recognize where the cycle began, just like Michael. So recognition of the problem or pattern is the first step. Michael's pattern dealt with being a Victim and Rescuer, but there are other patterns to clear from one’s life. Michael's Victim role blamed others, including the media, for his own issues, and his Rescuer role protected his victims, the children, from the Persecutor, their parents and often media when he associated with child stars. Dr. E ... states, “Life happens for us, not to us. This is the difference between a Victor and a Victim.” The Persecutor and Instigator still need to be understood. The bully is the Persecutor and seeks someone to victimize. The Instigator is a unique role in that the Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer can each play this role to see how they can create their "splash" in those around them. For further explaination of the patterns Dr. E... elaborates, "The Victim plays the How Much Do You Love Me game. The Persecutor plays the How Much Do You Fear Me game. Whereas the Rescuer plays the How Much Do You Worship Me game." These games originate from the fact that society's view of power teach us to take a piece from other people rather than believe in ourself. Look within yourself and others in your circle with these patterns and take action.
As a published licensed clinical psychologist, Dr. E ... coaches through his books, The Art of Empowered Parenting and The Art of Managing Everyday Conflict to change. His encouraging words propose a solution, “The goal is that we learn to believe in ourself. We learn to find our power within ourself. We learn to live our life in truth, honor, and integrity. It's in our best interest to point the collective finger back at ourselves, if we are going to 'make this world a better place.'” He states in his articles, “We are all human… You are the only one who can fill that space within you, and if you don’t look inside and learn how to find your own individual solutions, how will you teach your children to do so?” So realize that the actions of one will change the actions of another as we are all in the same universe. Perhaps Michael sang it best, "I'm looking at the man in the mirror." Find more on Dr. E ... at his blogs on Parents Society: http://blogs.parentsociety.com/doctore/ Erik A. Fisher, Ph.D - Licensed Psychologist, Author, Media Consultant www.managingeverydayconflict.com Facebook: http://profile.to/dr__e Twitter: http://twitter.com/DctrE LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/doctore Published Jul 6, 2009 © Copyright 2003-2004 by LA Splash.com |
